[We recently sent this out in paper form to our mailing list. Yes, snail mail. We will be continuing this “series” for a couple of months, in an effort to share our lives a bit more, and give others a chance to know us, and even possibly join our support team. Thanks for being part of this blog community!]
If you’ve known us through the years, you would probably say we have a strong marriage, a united family, and a genuine desire to serve others. You’d be right!
However, behind the scenes these 18 years, we struggled and battled and fought to keep our marriage from deteriorating. The journey has often been rough and uncertain. Somehow, we managed to cling to Jesus, and He made the rough roads smooth (Luke 3:4-6) and our weakness into strength (2 Cor. 12:9-10).
The challenges of marriage, and the rewards of overcoming them with Jesus, are an important motivation for us in our return to Niger.
Here is our story, so you will better understand why we desire to walk with others through the hills, valleys, and plateaus of marriage and family life.
Part One: By Andrew
It was the Winter of 1994, and I was a new man. I was free! Alive again at 22 years old. Why? For the first time in 10 years, I was released from football. Throughout my life, God had used sports to shape and mold me. Lessons about hard work, commitment, and character were forged. Sports – football being paramount – had given focus to my life, something to pour myself into. Sports’ teams provided excellent friends and influential mentors. Many times, the competition brought me to a place of needing Jesus. With sports came the unknown (“how will I perform?”), and times of being stretched beyond my comfort zone (“will I fail?”). Often, I felt weak and needed someone, bringing me to reach for God’s comfort. At the end of the day, though, my success in sports had become an idol that I could carry no longer. In particular, football was ‘the most important thing in my life’. The pressure I felt was suffocating to the point of despair. Joy and freedom finally came when I sensed God saying to me, “Walk away from all of that. I have something new.” So, happily I marched away with my best friend Jesus.
The next two years were invigorating, life-giving! I found joy and could breathe again. I grew in confidence and maturity away from the football field. Jesus was My Everything. I began to spend time with Nikki (whom I had known since our freshman year in college), and our friendship grew. She was in a similar place of joyfully following Christ, and the synergy of our faith deepened our bond. Our mutual desire for an uncommon life-lived-for-Jesus unfolded into a dating relationship, and then engagement. One mentor of ours said something like this, “You two will be an amazing team – you have so few hindrances.” Would this be true?
During our engagement, Nikki moved to Eastern Washington to begin work in youth ministry with Young Life. Since I was not rooted in my job at the time, I moved also, to be near her as our wedding day approached. And this is where the “happy” story began to change. I was now in an unfamiliar town, with unfamiliar people, with a less-than-ideal job, feeling stretched and without clear purpose. It didn’t take long to hit an emotional low. I no longer felt peace and security. Instead, I felt weak, average, and discontent. And for Nikki, the new me was confusing, and disappointing. Not exactly a marvelous starting point for our marriage!
To be continued… (Part Two coming soon!)
We will be continuing our testimony, “Behind the Scenes”, here and through our e-mailing list. We’d love to share with you the rest of our story! You can follow this blog by signing up with your email address, or you can contact us to get your name/email address on our email list!
Back to Niger Progress Report:
Here is how things are going so far:
One time needs: 15%
Monthly financial support: 15%